Fatherhood definitively has changed his view of life, work and art in the weirdest ways:
1. Focus
Having a new born forces you to focus on 'being'.
It ads the Yin to the Yang...
It gets you out of brainless running mode, as kids directly notice (and show) when you are distracted.
Especially as an ambitious parent it sucks you all into the primal state; forces you to listen observe and care. Focus on giving and not on achieving/receiving/earning/etc.
This is why many people undergo real changes when having children; but it is no guarantee of course.
2. Distance
Art Burshy also noticed that in a way you are forced to take more distance from other everyday stuff.
Disance from evreyday work; all these little work issues, gossip and stressful targets somehow shrink in relevance and meaning.
It has actually helped Art to see things at work clearer.
It is like opening a door:
- before having kids Art would always push the door open, and if it did not work he would push harder.
- and now he sees that there are other doors; they can be opened by pulling.
It probably sounds oversimplified, but sometimes trying to hard, repeating too much and working to get it exactly your way does not actually pay off.
Actually Art noticed that as soon as he took more distance he achieved more.
This does not mean Art finds it easy to adjust - it never is - but it helps to see an additional purpose in having a baby and not being able to fully focus on work...
Well, as a consequence...a very short Art Burshy story for you today as Art did not have much time for us ;)
