Art is on his way to the airport to pick up his wife and youngest kid...
A car in front of him waits a few seconds after the trafic light is green, and then slowly pulls up...
Art Burshy tries to make himself calm, but he can't help this time...
He opens the car window and yells to the car before...
knowing the man will not hear him...
or maybe hoping the man will not hear him, because what would happen if the man got our of his car?!!
In fact Art is aware that he is completely unreasonable...yelling at a car for pulling up a few seconds too slow...
And artists are supposed to be calm, they are supposed to have all the time in the world, they are thought to have slowed down their pace and fill their lives with reflection and search for beauty...
And sure Art has tried to calm himself down, slow down the pace and reduce expectations that were given to him in this culture and by his parents.
He has already forma long time identified many patterns in his behaviour that were far from beautiful and stood in fact in the way of happiness.
So Art has replaced patterns and habits by better patterns and new behaviour.
Actually he hopes that more people would do that; reflect on their patterns that do not make sense and try to replace them.
- like Art feels that everyone in their small circle seems happy, but still complains about the country, about the government. If they would replace complaining by sharing positive comments they would notice how ridiculously often they complain
- like Art sees many people blaming others at work for their own lack of success...sure it's safe and it is a way to put the blame outside yourself, and not accept the real choice you have: a) accept it, b) change it or c) avoid it and take another route/job. Why not next time of failure think of one thing you will do better next time?
- like managers trying to control their team in every detail, removing the most important aspects of obtaining maximum results: inspiration. Only by sharing a goal, and allowing a person to find his way towards that goal you obtain sustainable results. Trust, and let the people tell you how they would like to report about progress and issues.
- like people voting for populist politicians that promise everything and then be disappointed in politics as 'nothing ever gets better'.
- like artists complaining that critics do not understand them, and that they just refuse to see the amazing talent of the artist...
- or Art notices how often parents need to repeat to their kids that they did something wrong...like if the kids were stupid or deaf...When kids make mistakes they know, no need to make it a trauma, just tell them once how you would expect them to deal with it next time, and offer to help them.
Maybe in some way Art Burshy's biggest dysfunctional pattern is that he complains about people complaining...
Another thing is that deeper patterns never really go away. Art has noticed that he thought he had overcome certain bad habits, until....the pressure around him became more pressing than ever, and he observed himself make the same mistakes again.
Well, as said, Art is on his way to pick up his wife, his girl, his muse...he is longing to see her and has still some 5 minutes margin. And probably she will understand if he is 5 minutes late...so probably he has all the time to get theree...
still, Art can't help it...he wants to move on...he wants to embrace her and have fun wis his baby-son... So he yells again "everyone move over and let me through, I have important things to do!!!"
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